STEP TWO: SELF WORTH

Hello dolls and tonka trucks! It’s your girl Cali.. So as I said in my last post I’m going to do a 4week series of my current mission entitled:90 days of loving myself.. granted I know four weeks is only 28 days, but these steps will be the foundation of a 90 day mission...So as I said, step one was admitting I have a problem! The problem being, either loosing one's self, not living up to one's full potential, and so forth and so forth. My next step is: realize our worth! I feel that sometimes we take so much from people because we love them, sometimes we need to learn to stop taking other people's crap and learn to love ourselves more! Finding our self can be such a fulfilling journey! We hold our own happiness; problem is we sometimes just don't know how to find it. So we invest our time into extrinsic and temporary rewards/satisfaction. Things such as NEEDING to have a significant other, buying expensive items as if that's going to fulfill us. Truth be told we can look as good as we want and still feel ugly and empty! At the end of the day when all those things are taken away we're "stuck" with our true self. Some of us don't even know who that is anymore. A method I tried this week was making a list. I made a list of things I want, need and deserve.. I also made a list of why I want need and deserve these things. All the things listed were not of any matarial value, more so of emotional, spiritual, and internal investments. I guess you can say it was more of a list of qualities. Point being when we focus on our internal talents that we have to offer some one and the world we began to view things differently.. Yes I have a great rack, but I have so much more to offer someone then just my bra size. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves of our God given gifts. Yes I am perfectly imperfect but that’s okay because God and the people around me love me just the way I am. I deserve love and good things because I continue to grow and mature while remaining humble every day. Some of our flaw’s is what makes us beautiful, they don’t hold us back. Once we realize who we are, we realize our worth. Make daily reminders to yourself of how beautiful and important you are. God made us each uniquely distinctive individuals. It’s time we EMBRACE IT!! Paraphrasing & remixing my girl Marsha Ambrosius, we have to lose ourselves so we can love ourselves better, lose ourselves in LOVE. That’s just the way it is! Till next Monday toy box! Love ya, and remember to love yourself! Comment & share your feelings with us! We love to hear them! Questions, comments, or concerns email us! snakebitesandhighheels@gmail.com

90 days of loving myself: Step 1 admitting you have a problem

Hello dolls and tonka truck!! So like always your girl Cali is on a mission. However this mission is different from any other of my missions. I’m going on a mission to find and love myself fully. Now as cliché as it might sound, it’s a very deep and spiritual, personal, and emotional journey that will produce maturity, clarification, and growth. Over the years I began to lose sight of myself. On the surface and amongst friends and family I seem well put together, and like I have my head on straight. Truth be told in my darkest hours I realize I’m going down a road that I’m not 100% confident about. I’m slowly evolving into a stranger. I’ve lost passion for things that brought my spirit to life, things that I couldn’t envision my life without. I almost feel like I’ve became a robot and I’m emotionless. Lately I’ve just been going through life, but I haven’t allowed myself to truly feel life’s presence. So I’m going back to what I know, God and writing. This journey I plan on focusing on God, and my dreams. Which coincidently in my book go hand and hand. Another reason I decided to take this journey is because I slowly see my life passing me by, and things aren’t going as I predicted them to. As a result of that I began to see myself becoming bitter and pessimistic. In a way my sanity, faith, happiness, perception and hope for anything amazing to happen to me has begun to slowly chip away. With that said I plan on rebirthing myself. Into the woman I know God has set me to be, as appose to this woman who’s allowing situations and circumstances to foreshadow my heart. I will keep a daily journal and make it a goal to write down two things I’ve down, and or acknowledge about myself to make myself love me that much more. I also plan on falling back in love, with LOVE! I promise I’ll try not to bore you! I’ll update my lovely toy box once a week to let you guys know how this mission is going. Hell maybe we can all take it together or maybe you can see how my journey goes and then you’ll do it.