My Secrete Addiction

HI toy box! My name is Cali…and I’m an addict. My drug of choice….LOVE AND HIP HOP ATLANTA!  I’m not too keen on a lot of reality shows that are filled with drama, unless it has to do with some type of murder mystery, or forensic files or some type of biology or psychology base behind it. HOWEVER, Love and Hip Hope ATL has definitely been fitted into my “guilty pleasure”. I’m telling you guys, this is definitely my secrete addiction! Ooooooooh dolls and tonka trucks! Let me tell you! Now I know some of you are like “eww that show is ratchet, whole bunch of drama, and it makes the black community look bad” and blah blah blah. Granted it may be true, HOWEVER I CAN’T GET ENOUGH OF IT! I allow myself to be ratchet once a week; Monday nights in between the times of 8-9pm Pacific Time lol.  As most of you know Love and Hip Hop Atlanta season two premiered last night. So I’m gonna give a brief recap on what I felt were highlights of the show. It got REAL in the first episode. So Stevie J is still crazy and trifling while Mimi is still tolerating it. Momma Dee is still crazy as EVER, and Erica and Scrappy are planning a wedding.  Oh did I mention that Momma Dee is trying to get Scrappy back with Shay. She needs to MOVE ON! There are hella men in the ATL! Girl boo!  Joseline is still hilarious! She must have taken some speech classes because this season her English has improved about 30%. The funniest part of the first episode was Joseline’s constant disrespect to Mimi. Whenever she referred to Mimi she called her a “maid”.  Molly’s maid to be exact! The disrespect is REAL…..REAL FUNNY! This season is going to be hilarious. My favorite favorite is Joseline Hernandez. I heart her! For one SHE’S HILARIOUS! For two she doesn’t care what any one thinks of her, and I can respect that. She’s all about her money by any means. She is just hilarious!  I’ve never heard her music, besides the snippets that’s played of the show, but to honest I can careless about her music! It’s her personality that makes her intriguing to me. Needless to say I’ll be tuned in this season, so don’t be surprised if I make another post about the show! Lol have a wonderful day toy box! Comment and subscribe! Questions feel free to comment or email us at snakebitesandhighheels@gmail.com follow us on twitter we follow back! Bitesandheels

Hold On To Faith, Cling to Patience~

 Hello Loves,

     this Sylvia Plath quote pretty much explains where I am in my life; I can face this reality. Though, i'm in my 20's I by no means feel like I should have it ALL put together and figured out;(it would be nice). However, That's not my reality.Often times I battle back and forth with myself; trying to figure out my purpose in life. What am I good at? Am I on the right path? Are my choices good? Those are a few questions that run cross my mind. I'm almost sure there's a bunch of you who have the same questions. Frankly, there is no instant answer. We get comformation/reassurance with time. I've realized that "you cannot make your life move faster than it is moving." If you're at a low point in your life you have to just move through it with a smile and faith. You have to be patient with yourself, free yourself from negative thoughts, be patient with others, and be patient with LIFE. Lets face it; its a struggle to follow what looks like simple advice, and it's because of that voice in our heads that analysis everything, and makes worries and anxieties so apparent. We need to apprehend that our thoughts aren't us! their just thoughts and we're the observer. Furthermore, for anyone who is going through a slow point just let this moment pass and let the power of God flow through you.

Lost & Found

Long time no see/read toy box! I know we’ve been on hiatus! Sometimes life just happens! To be honest I was going thru this crazy phase where I lost my desire/passion for writing. I know it sounds crazy! It was almost like I became a robot, same thing day in and day out with no emotion. I felt completely numb! I guess you can say I lost myself. It took me a long time to even realize that. I’m so use to just going thru the motions and putting on my big girl panties, and acting as if nothing fazes me. Truth be told, even super man has a kryptonite. I was absolutely lost. I was at a point in my life where I felt like a failure. I got so stuck in dwelling on what I have yet to accomplish, what I don’t have, and where I thought I should be in life. Failing to realize that I’m exactly where God wants me to be. I was so foolish comparing my life to others, that I neglected counting the many blessings that I do have. Gods blessed me with the gift to gab, and here I was in this dark hole not utilizing what God gave me. We sometimes go thru things and it seems like we’ll never see the end of it, but there’s always a meaningful lesson behind all of our adversities. I’ve been working on this piece the whole weekend, just trying to allow the words to come to me, and not forcing it out of me. Needless to say we’re back like we lost something and mean business! We thank you guys for your support and patients. It truly means the world and beyond! Thank you to the ones who commented on some of our older post, your kind words were music to our ears. Our toy box is defiantly our open very public diary; we thank you from the bottom of our hearts for spending time out of your busy days to share our world. ALSOOOOOO WE NEED TO BRING BACK HOTT TOTTIE THURSDAYS!! So If you are a hott tottie or know someone who is, send us a email with your information and a pic! If selected you can be posted on our blog! Questions, comments, want us to blogg about something EMAIL US! WE LOVE YOUR FEED BACK! Send us an email at snakebitesandhighheels@gmail.com FOLLOW US ON TWITTER! WE FOLLOW BACK! BitesAndHeels also add us on facebook "Embrace Couture" Have a beautiful day toy box!

STEP TWO: SELF WORTH

Hello dolls and tonka trucks! It’s your girl Cali.. So as I said in my last post I’m going to do a 4week series of my current mission entitled:90 days of loving myself.. granted I know four weeks is only 28 days, but these steps will be the foundation of a 90 day mission...So as I said, step one was admitting I have a problem! The problem being, either loosing one's self, not living up to one's full potential, and so forth and so forth. My next step is: realize our worth! I feel that sometimes we take so much from people because we love them, sometimes we need to learn to stop taking other people's crap and learn to love ourselves more! Finding our self can be such a fulfilling journey! We hold our own happiness; problem is we sometimes just don't know how to find it. So we invest our time into extrinsic and temporary rewards/satisfaction. Things such as NEEDING to have a significant other, buying expensive items as if that's going to fulfill us. Truth be told we can look as good as we want and still feel ugly and empty! At the end of the day when all those things are taken away we're "stuck" with our true self. Some of us don't even know who that is anymore. A method I tried this week was making a list. I made a list of things I want, need and deserve.. I also made a list of why I want need and deserve these things. All the things listed were not of any matarial value, more so of emotional, spiritual, and internal investments. I guess you can say it was more of a list of qualities. Point being when we focus on our internal talents that we have to offer some one and the world we began to view things differently.. Yes I have a great rack, but I have so much more to offer someone then just my bra size. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves of our God given gifts. Yes I am perfectly imperfect but that’s okay because God and the people around me love me just the way I am. I deserve love and good things because I continue to grow and mature while remaining humble every day. Some of our flaw’s is what makes us beautiful, they don’t hold us back. Once we realize who we are, we realize our worth. Make daily reminders to yourself of how beautiful and important you are. God made us each uniquely distinctive individuals. It’s time we EMBRACE IT!! Paraphrasing & remixing my girl Marsha Ambrosius, we have to lose ourselves so we can love ourselves better, lose ourselves in LOVE. That’s just the way it is! Till next Monday toy box! Love ya, and remember to love yourself! Comment & share your feelings with us! We love to hear them! Questions, comments, or concerns email us! snakebitesandhighheels@gmail.com

90 days of loving myself: Step 1 admitting you have a problem

Hello dolls and tonka truck!! So like always your girl Cali is on a mission. However this mission is different from any other of my missions. I’m going on a mission to find and love myself fully. Now as cliché as it might sound, it’s a very deep and spiritual, personal, and emotional journey that will produce maturity, clarification, and growth. Over the years I began to lose sight of myself. On the surface and amongst friends and family I seem well put together, and like I have my head on straight. Truth be told in my darkest hours I realize I’m going down a road that I’m not 100% confident about. I’m slowly evolving into a stranger. I’ve lost passion for things that brought my spirit to life, things that I couldn’t envision my life without. I almost feel like I’ve became a robot and I’m emotionless. Lately I’ve just been going through life, but I haven’t allowed myself to truly feel life’s presence. So I’m going back to what I know, God and writing. This journey I plan on focusing on God, and my dreams. Which coincidently in my book go hand and hand. Another reason I decided to take this journey is because I slowly see my life passing me by, and things aren’t going as I predicted them to. As a result of that I began to see myself becoming bitter and pessimistic. In a way my sanity, faith, happiness, perception and hope for anything amazing to happen to me has begun to slowly chip away. With that said I plan on rebirthing myself. Into the woman I know God has set me to be, as appose to this woman who’s allowing situations and circumstances to foreshadow my heart. I will keep a daily journal and make it a goal to write down two things I’ve down, and or acknowledge about myself to make myself love me that much more. I also plan on falling back in love, with LOVE! I promise I’ll try not to bore you! I’ll update my lovely toy box once a week to let you guys know how this mission is going. Hell maybe we can all take it together or maybe you can see how my journey goes and then you’ll do it.

Over the C L U B sceen.ORG

Hey dolls and tonka trucks I know it’s been a looooong time coming but don't fright we are back in full affect~ as it turns out we’re going to start making videos as well!!

Anyhow, since my toy box is my open diary; I need to share a few thangs that have been on ya girl Cali’s mind, heart, and soul lately! What's that you ask?
IM RETIRING MY PIMP CARD! I'm only 23 and I’m so over clubbing!! I think I’m going thru a midlife crisis!! Lol Im SOO OVEER The club, going out, dudes talking to me, temporary affection, gossip! Let’s just say damn near everything! Ya girl needs her own island before she becomes the wicked old lady that lives in a shoe with 50 cats. It’s that real in the streets lol; something has got to give! The club just isn't fun for me anymore! I get more excited about the process of getting fierce then actually going! The club has become a chore. And everything else that comes with it is just 3×2much!!

The things that I have been encountering are dramatic and should only happen on a soap opera! Examples- Just the other night this fool (who shall remain nameless) had the audacity to knock at my door at 1am drunk as hell talking about he misses me! What in the MGM GRANT Is that about! This "young life" is becoming more and more fictitious and artificial! I'm yearning for something R E A L solid and concrete! I'm over getting fierce to go to the club to dance to the same songs I dance to in the car FOR FREE! And being thought of as saditty just because I don't want to dance with a dude! PLUS yawls know I’ve had some bad experiences at the club! Like the boy who was a STALKER!! Did I tell y'all I seen that fool again! I LITERALLY RAN!

A Day in The Life of Cali

Hey Toy Box! How youuu ya liiiving whaaaat how ya liiiving! lol So ya'll remember how I told ya'll that I was God's favorite reality show? IT STILL HOLDS TRUTHS! If this random story doesn't convince you......maybe you don't comprehend well hahah so any who I had the most RANDOM and I mean RANDOM CRAP happen to ya girl Cali today. Sooo I went to old man Jenkins (aka my dad) house today to study. No one was home I figured it would be nice and peaceful so I could get some work done. FAIIIL! my A.D.D. kicked in and I couldn’t focus! Next thing I know I’m looking up the meaning to random words, making business calls, reading unnecessary crap and just a whole bunch of foolery, okay. So finally I get back into my biology homework, and then I get a rumble in the jungle. So of course I dash to the bathroom. This is where the madness starts! Do ya'll know the toilet wouldn’t work!!!! Like it would NOT FLUSH FOR OVER 10MINUTES!!! I was like hold the phone I didn’t do that much damage! NOOOO NOOO NOOOO! Chiiiiild do you know I had to get my Bob the Builder on to flush that damn toilet! I’m talking about unpluming some pluming and just stupid crap that I shouldn’t have been doing! I was soooo tempted to just leave it as is! lol I KNOW TRIFFLING! BUT I DIDNT OKAY! lol Anywho fast-forward its time for me to go to work, I grab all of my crap and head towards the door. Mind you I have my purse, books, binders, drink and keys. Now I’m a very clumsy person! So it goes without saying that of course I had to drop something! I dropped my drink and it spilled, I left the door open and ran to get something to wipe it up. So far so normal right? WRONG Why did the neighbor’s cat decide to walk in, like he own the place! I was like ummm excuse me Garfield you have to go! He looked at me turned his head meowed something about me and acted as if he didn’t hear me! I was like RUUUUDEE MUCHHH! So here I am trying to persuade the cat outside and he aint having it! I was petting him to try to make him follow me; he still paid me no mind! FINALLY I rubbed his belly (thinking he would follow me if he wanted more), do you know this bipolar cat snapped and scratched me! I was like OHHH NOOOOO! YOU OUT WARNED YOUR WELCOME! GEEET YOOOO SHHHHHHH GET YO SHHHHHHH ANNND GEEET OUT! That didn’t work either! I was seriously going crazy talking to a damn cat! ANNND the situation pissed me off even more because I was arguing with an animal that couldn’t argue back! So on top of being late to work, I figured out I was CRAZY! So after 10 minutes of me diagnosing myself and playing games with this damn cat, I finally out smarted him! I lowered him out with an old ass tortilla my dad had in the fridge! How many people have had this happen to them? My day starts off normal and then I get thrown a curve ball! I promise you I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried! Well that’s all for now toy box! OHH AND MAKE SURE YA'LL CALL AND VOTE FOR MY BABY ROB KARDASHIAN ON DANCING WITH THE STARS! lol
P.S. WE ARE BRINGING BACK HOTT TOTTIE THURSDAYS!! So If you are a hott tottie or know someone who is send us an email with your information and a pic! If selected you can be posted on our blog! Send us an email at snakebitesandhighheels@gmail.com FOLLOW US ON TWITTER! WE FOLLOW BACK! BitesAndHeels also add us on Facebook "Embrace Couture" Have a beautiful day toy box!